Tag: Bravery

  • Going on a Treasure Hunt (Part 2)

    CAC mural March 2014What would you do if you found yourself on a sailboat in the middle of a stretch of ocean, and your task was to search for treasure?

    Along the way, you had to:

    • find a few new friends
    • locate some markers of your trip so you could share them with others who might want to follow you
    • weather a storm or two
    • discover something magical; and
    • leave a mark on the spot of your treasure so others could find it too.

    Oh yeah – and then you need to create a piece of art that shows your journey.

    The mural created by some of the girls in our mentoring programs, led by artist Manda Severin, represents something very similar to this make-believe journey. They didn’t go on an actual boat, but the mural makes me think about the journeys we take at each phase of our lives and all the symbolism that can be found in a painting of an ocean.

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    Think about it: an ocean is a deep and mysterious place under the surface, but when you look at it from above, it is just a beautiful expanse of blue water and sparkly splashes and rolling waves. Looking at it from that viewpoint, it seems like an ocean is just water – miles and miles of water.

    CAC mural March 2014blogBut we know that under the surface you can find all sorts of life. You might find turtles or fish or living coral. If you are lucky, maybe you’ll meet a mermaid or merman. If you travel close to shore you might see a lighthouse and cliffs and rocky shoreline. If you dive very deep, you might find larger sea creatures, both gentle and fierce, moving through the deep, dark depths.

    It’s kind of like stretches of our lives. If we just look at what things appear to be on the surface, it can seem like lots of sameness – like the stretches of blue water of the ocean. If we look below, though, we find all sorts of things going on. On my particular journeys at various times of my life, I have met lots of interesting friends and companions (like the turtles and mermaids and jelly fish in the mural), weathered a few horrible storms, and been very grateful for the markers along the way that helped me avoid wrecks and disasters (like the lighthouse and the compass).

    CAC mural March 2014blog2In the mural, the X marks the spot of the treasure, but the box is unopened. I like this image, because even though we might all venture through journeys similar to the one in this painting, we each need and hopefully find different “treasures”.

    The journey of healing from anything painful has all of these elements: uncertain pathways, companions and friends, stormy periods, and resting spots when we need them. What I love about this mural is that it leaves a path of this journey so that others can follow and hopefully have an easier time of it. The fact that this was created by girls healing from abuse makes that part of the painting even more touching to me. I like the idea that they have created something that is both playful and significant, meaningful to their own journeys and to the journeys we all take, whether we have experienced abuse or not. We all journey through challenges and times of joy in our lives and this mural speaks to all of us in that way.

    Have you decided yet what your journey might look like? Who your companions might be? What treasure you might find at the end?

    CAC mural March 2014blog4One last thing. At the top of the mural the purple sky is lit up with glowing stars in the shape of expanding circles and they seem to cast a blessing over the whole thing. I’d like to think those stars represent all those who watch over us and help us, over the girls who painted the mural, over all kids and teens healing from abuse. When I look up at the stars tonight, that thought will bring peace to my thoughts.

    Thank you, artists of this mural, for sharing a little bit of your journeys with us and for leaving something beautiful behind at our center. May the stars watch over your journeys, tonight and every night, and may you always have companions to help you along your way.

    This mural was painted by artist Manda Severin, with participation by five girls who are in treatment at the Children’s Advocacy Center (CAC). The girls helped choose the theme and picked the design, as well as being full participants in the painting process. 

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    Manda Severin
    Manda Severin

    The artist: Manda Severin is a true renaissance woman. She has a Master’s degree in Psychology and she has been an instructor at SOU for many years. She is also a very talented artist and musician. She is available to paint murals for individuals or businesses and she can be reached at juniperbryn@gmail.com

  • How Big is Your Brave?

    “I wonder what would happen if you say what you want to say and let the words fall out honestly. I wanna see you be brave.”

     Sara Bareilles

    This is from my new favorite song, by my one of my very favorite musical artists. “Brave” is a song about speaking up against those who push us down, standing up for what we believe is right, and being, well, brave – in the face of challenge.

    My son sings this song and plays it for me often lately.  I introduced him to it, but it has become something of a theme song for him, and I find myself thinking about what it might mean for him to internalize this message at the age of 9.  This is much earlier in his life than I learned it in mine, and I am happy seeing the words resonate with him so deeply.

    What we deal with at the Children’s Advocacy Center each day is something that takes huge amounts of bravery, for everyone involved.  The kids who are brave enough to share the unspeakable things that happen to them inspire and challenge us all to act in their defense.  The non-offending family members who hear them and believe them show bravery in the face of many challenges they will have to face as “secrets” become visible to a larger audience.

    Our staff members, the law enforcement officers, the Child Welfare workers and all others who come into contact with them show bravery every day as they help these children and teens find their voices so they can talk about what happened to them and begin to heal.  Sometimes this means being part of confronting people who hurt children.  Sometimes the ones who hurt children and are the ones who are supposed to take care of them and protect them.

    Bravery is needed by everyone.

    “Show me how big your brave is.”

    How big is your brave?  I have been asking myself this question lately.

    This blog is about creativity, transformation, and healing.  Right now I am thinking about the fact that all acts of creativity and healing require a certain level of bravery.  They require us to move beyond what is already in place and create something new.  To say something that must be said.  To risk putting things out in the world even if we have no idea how they will be received.

    “I wonder what would happen if you say what you want to say and let the words fall out honestly. I wanna see you be brave.”

    What do you need to be brave about?  And how big is your brave?  I am going to keep thinking about that for a long time.  I want my son to see me live my life

    with a very

    big

    brave.